Fight, Flight or Freeze: Understanding Stress and How to Manage It
According to Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Diane Langberg, stress is the body’s natural response to threatening situations in our lives. It helps us either fight or flee and gives us the energy to handle the stress or remove ourselves from it. Stress is a normal part of life that can be negative or positive. It can be self-induced or brought on by circumstances beyond our control. Whatever the case, it alerts us to a situation that needs some attention from us.
As women, who are usually the caretakers in the home, we feel as though we are the ones who need to make sure life runs smoothly for our families. And women are more likely to feel the physical effects of stress, which makes us even feel more stressed out.
Sometimes stress comes from difficult life situations, but sometimes it results from our perceptions about life situations. There is a difference between stressful events that occur in our lives and perceived stress. Some people who are perfectionists create stress for themselves, or they may live with someone who creates the stress for them. In either case, it is important to control the stress in our lives. If we do not learn this fact, stress will take over and control us.
First of all, you need to try to get a perspective of what causes your stress. In our world today, so many people, places, events, and the daily news create stress. It is best to try to address one area at a time. You do not want to become overwhelmed by attempting to process everything at once.
One way to assist with whatever causes your difficulties is to see the purpose in what is taking place. The struggles may help you to develop your faith more or to show you just how strong you are as a woman. If you are feeling overwhelmed, talk to someone about it. Life is not designed to be done alone. Asking for help is actually a sign of strength, not of weakness like we have been told in the past.
We should stop focusing on the minor details of life that so often create stress. Focus on the important aspects of life. In five years from now, will it really matter if your home is immaculate or not? We need to become intentional about how we spend our time from day to day. It’s okay to say “no” to things that are just not that important. I learned the hard way. As a young mother, I determined I would not say “no” to anyone who asked me to do something for them. After a while and spending several months recovering from a severe illness, I learned that concept. Sometimes, we just have to be still and spend time with those we care about the most.
One more thing that is important: Make time for fun and games in your life and share them with your family and friends. Take time to laugh, play, joke, and relax, whether by yourself or with others. As you incorporate some of these ideas and practices, I hope it will assist you in maintaining balance in your life.
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